Single moms. Yes, you. I’m talking to YOU this Valentine’s Day. I’m talking to you because I AM you…working hard to juggle so many different plates and still make everything absolutely amazing and memorable and special for my child. I’m trying so hard to make moments magical—the kind of magical that I was blessed to experience in my own childhood. The kind of moments that I realize were all created by mom. And I have HUGE shoes to fill!

Ladies, as much as we pour into our children and others in our lives, we have to take care of ourselves. I say this to any woman, but I say it with extra emphasis for single moms. Whether you are solo- or co-parenting, there is a unique weight and worry that we carry. There is a different hurt that we shoulder, and we often suppress it in order to be caretakers for others. I know this firsthand; I’ve been through the pain of separation and divorce.

And, ladies, THIS is why I’ve put my health as a priority. This is why I take time in the day to focus on my wellness needs because I know how much my daughter loves and needs me. And, I know that a little extra focus on me yields a HUGE return in energy, and passion, and strength to be the best mom, friend, daughter, colleague, and sister possible.

It’s HARD, though. When such precious little people need YOU, it’s hard to step back and take a move that—let’s be real—you often categorize as selfish because you can’t justify prioritizing yourself. And that right there is a lie. You have to prioritize self-care (even 10 minutes a day) in order to be a more loving, more whole, more complete person.

So, this Valentine’s, I’m begging you to take a deep breath. Step back. Look in the mirror. And smile. Girl—YOU are a superhero. YOU have been through so much. Sacrificed so much. And still, you pour so much love into your precious children.

BUT…even the most amazing Super Hero has a breaking point. I know. I’ve watched all the DC Comics and Marvel Universe movies.

So, please, start taking steps to take care of you. Baby steps will energize and inspire you beyond your wildest dreams. It’s OKAY to admit you’re tired. It’s OKAY to cry. But, it’s not okay to ignore the signs and do nothing. You will absolutely regret that decision in the near future.

This Valentine’s, commit to loving YOU more. It’s a hard one…I know. It may even seem impossible. But, I got you. Let’s do this together.